Sexy

Have you ever taken a group photo where the photographer goes down the list of favourable prompts, “smile everyone…okay, a crazy look…now, everyone put on your sexy look”?  There is a picture I will spare you from seeing because my devastating attempt to “look sexy” is alarming.  Luckily I wasn’t alone.  One of my best friends had a similar take on sexy. In a few words, it was potentially the way we bent over as if picking up a heavy bag of cow manure or the look on our faces that was somewhere between pained and as if we had just eaten something really bad.  We gave sexy a confusing hilarity.   

Years later it is my pleasure to say that I have a new view of what sexy is.  As a Counselor working with individuals and couples over the last two years, I have been moved by the way in which deconstructing our approach to doing life “the right way”, allows us to live life more authentically connected.  I have learned similarly that trying to look sexy is the last thing that is sexy. Sexy is being your true self.  Sexy is unapologetically inhabiting your body in a way that permeates the room with a “Yes!".  For some of us, this takes some intentional work.  We have been trained that we are not enough as we are.  We suffer through comparison.  We look for connection in relationships without knowing fully how to be generously compassionate with ourselves.  We believe the countless messages that we have heard from the time we were born about what it means to be a man or to be a woman and ultimately we can end up feeling isolated as a result.  

So here’s my plan to storm the world in a way that can literally change our experience of life.  I’ve added a modality to my tool-box called the Somatica Method.  As a certified Sex and Relationship Coach I’m excited to share with you not only the way in which Somatica has changed my approach to inhabiting this one beautiful body, but also to the vast possibilities we can experience in the realm of intimacy. On Friday, January 6th at 6 o’clock in the evening, come find out what Somatica has to offer you.  Come if you are single or come with your partner.  My approach as a Counselor and Sex and Relationship Coach is one that encourages making great relationships even better.  I don’t believe that you have to have a problem to explore this realm.  Imagine being supported in experiencing the kind of vitality, playfulness and connection you believe is possible.  Sometimes we hit road blocks as well.  If you’re moving through difficult territory that you need some support in traversing, now is the time and I’m up for moving through that with you as well.  So come find out how I work.  The evening is a free event.  It will be fun, it will be experiential and it will be a great way to spend a Friday night with some really exceptional people.  Come also to find out about the two workshop opportunities that will begin in January.  

For Women:

Uncovering the Erotic

Integrating the Art of Sensation into Everyday Experiences

 

Or if you’re partnered, build community to support your profound relationship:

Living Powerfully with your Partner in the World

Click on headings for all of the details about both workshops.

Private message me through Facebook or email at jmedoubleu@gmail.com so that I can give you the location of the event.  I am also available if you have questions about the free event on the 6th or you’d like to privately discuss what the workshops entail at (530)559-2944.

Or RSVP below for the free intro event below to find out more details about all of the exciting opportunities.

Curiosity

I have had an active healing arts practice for eighteen years and I currently notice the vibrant and enlivening sense of a new beginning.   Becoming a Sex and Relationship Coach has palpably enhanced my vision for the rest of my work as a healer.  As a certified Somatica Method practitioner I have solidified my understanding that my vocation is an extension of what I love about life.  I love alignment on all levels, alignment within myself, to those around me, to the source of life, to the natural world. 

Curiosity seems to be the key for me in regards to staying aligned.  The places in my life in which I experience a lack of alignment and suffering are the times in which I feel positioned or afraid.  Becoming curious tends to undermine suffering and alleviate a sense of being separate from connection to our loved ones, a greater purpose and ourselves.  A good place to begin being curiousity is in regards to our bodies.  When it comes to our bodies and ailments, diagnosing specific problems that we experience in order to treat the problem is extremely helpful and necessary, but stopping there can be a missed opportunity.  Staying curious; slowing down in such a way that we become familiar even with what it feels like to breath, can give us one of the keys to curiosity and lead towards connection and healing.  Breathing slowly in and out and sensing the way that breath fills the lungs, expands against muscles and tendons and bone, adjusting the body so that the skin feels the last push of breath expanding to capacity, can awaken curiosity.  This can bring us into a state of listening, of knowing the first step of what it may take to experience healing in the body.  At the very least it will help us remember that we have a body which sometimes is easily forgotten as we race through life. 

Curiosity is helpful on many planes.  Those of us in partnerships or marriages for many years tend to loose curiosity about our partners.  We become comfortable which is natural but it also causes us to fall asleep and can ultimately swallow the expansiveness of love.  Staying curious in relationship is recognizing the benefit of “not knowing”.  Curiosity can be harnessed in many ways, some simple and some more difficult.  Asking questions is a good beginning.  In conflict we tend to revert to assuming the problem has to do with recognized habits in our partners.  Sometimes conflict arises partially out of asserting what we assume is the problem rather than asking questions that might uncover something deeper.  Our projections and assumptions are results of being positioned and afraid.  Curiosity allows for the possibility of true intimacy, connection and at the very least, roots us in love. 

What I have come to find over time is that one of the ways to establish patterns of curiosity is to recognize the benefit of connection.  One of the passions I’m nurturing in my healing arts practice as a Sex and Relationship Coach is looking for ways to nurture connection in community.  If you are in a romantic partnership whether it is just beginning or has been growing for years, consider enhancing your relationship through a four part series with other couples on a similar path.  Here are the details. 

I am so grateful for the ways in which I get to grow next to each of you.  

Living powerfully with your partner in the world

•a four part adventure for your relationship•

•heighten your passion and bring your relationship to the next level•

We spend enlivening hours dreaming up mission statements for the organizations and communities that excite us, imagine the possibility of creating the kind of romantic relationship that not only was filled with play and passion, but also was profoundly impactful in the world.  Build community over four months with four other couples who want to clarify, nourish, revive and renew their relationships with the intention to build love, passion, understanding and support around having inspiring partnerships.   

You can either bring together couples with whom you have already created sustaining relationships, or you can be placed with other couples that you will grow to know over the two-and-a-half-month journey.  

at the completion of the series each couple will:

• cultivate a deeper connection with your partner through four ninety-minute counseling sessions for the duration of the series; 
• uncover what aspects of the relationship are serving the partnership and which behaviors, attitudes and patterns are no longer feeding the vitality of your partnership;
• awaken the passion in your lives as a couple and as individuals;
• discover more intimately what the purpose of your relationship is;
• create agreements that will support you individually and as a couple; 
• meet four times as a group to support one another as couples, become allies for one another and become curious and excited once again about those aspects of your partnership that may have fallen into the background of busy lives.
• manifest a powerful and profound commitment to what you are creating as individuals and as a couple in the world.

what you can expect as you work with me

I am playful, direct, compassionate and extremely excited to help you find ways to create a passionate and vital relationship.  My approach as a Counselor and Sex and Relationship Coach is a commitment to following the path of deepest curiosity as your ally in the realm of profound connection and intimacy.  While sessions may be focused around talk, they also encompass practices that enhance connection with the body (fully clothed); relaxation through breath, identifying sensations in the body by exploring the emotions we may be resisting and many other experiential practices that allow the collaboration to move towards re-aligning with our enlivened selves.      

Though I have studied a substantial amount of research developed over years by well renowned Counselors, Therapists and Psychologists, I am most excited by the way in which healing occurs in surprising ways; acceptance, forgiveness, love, grieving, laughter, desire and so many other aspects of the human experience, that when given authentic presence, can move mountains in us.

registration details for each couple

Time Commitment:  Four  ninety minute private sessions as a couple, four two hour group sessions, and weekly guided prompts and a partnered support created to help you with your intention over a period of three months. 

Group Meetings on Calendared Mondays from seven o'clock to nine o'clock: Follow the link to the Couples Series to find out the next offering for this series.

• four 90 minutes private couples counseling session with Jaime

• four 2 hour group gathering for couples gathering, facilitated by Jaime                                         

• weekly prompts through email

Each week during the four month journey, you will be given guided prompts to heighten your connection both to yourself in the world and your partner.  You will be paired with one other person in the group to support you as you move more deeply through the process.

Cost: $660 per couple for the 2 month series

Location for Couples Session:  
970 East Main Street, Grass Valley Suite 104

Location for Couples Group Gathering:  
To be announced; facilitated by Jaime

You can register by pushing the RSVP button.  For more information call Jaime at (530) 559-2944 or email her at jmedoubleu@gmail.com

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Contact Jaime Williams through email at jmedoubleu@gmail.com or by phone at (530) 559-2944 to collaborate on how to make this series the best possible fit for you and your partner.